Girl with a can of beans.

25th November - 8th December 2008.

Some of you may notices, some of you may not. Some of you might be glad to be rid of them, some of you may have missed them. Not to worry though, my blogs are back from their brief departure.

In the last few weeks my life’s taken a drastic turn. Actually, I’m not sure if that is the way to describe it. Have we turned back the way we came? Or have we sped ahead and bought on the inevitable?

For once, I’m going to be explicit with what I have to say. My dad and I have moved out. We’ve moved from our ‘family’ and the house bought for us to all live in together happily ever after. To some that might sound upsetting, daunting, scary. For those who know better will understand the relief.

Since we moved out, we stayed with my Nan % Granddad for a week with the four of us living in a two bedroomed house and me sleeping on a sofa bed. I felt more comfortable and at home that I ever did in that house.

During these few weeks I’ve learnt some important lessons that will stay with me for some many years to come.

The first one being that money doesn’t make you happy. It might put a smile on your face and make things a little easier, but in the long run, if you don’t have the bare necessities in life then money will get you nowhere. It may buy you a house or car, but if you have noone to live with or go and visit then what do they actually account for?

My second lesson is about marriage. I can’t speak from first hand experience but I’ve been a part of two now and I think it is possible to learn a lot from just observing. I haven’t been put off, but neither am I eager to go running into it feet first. I’m not sure anyone has a perfect marriage, in fact, ‘perfect marriage’ is a complete oxymoron, however, if we don’t have a littlee magic, belief and hope then there’s never going to be a reason to try and reach a little bit further, run that little bit faster or walk into the unknown. I can’t imagine a single person I could love every day for the rest of my life. I think that would be one of the hardest things to do in life. But just because I can’t imagine them doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

Another thing I’ve learnt about is just how incredible my parents really are. Since living here I’ve had long conversations with my dad every night. One night we stayed up until midnight talking… just talking.On my day off, everyone went out with their friends, I went out shopping with my mom for the day. Parenting must be a hard job to do, it’s something everyone expects you to get rightm but never actually tell you how to not go wrong. Some how my parents have had the rules, tuahgt me the lessons and made their mistakes along the way, and along with all that they become two of my best friends. Two of my favourite people in the world.

Also, just like everything else in life friendship has a sell – by date. Some are like a can of beans; you’ve always got them and they’re ready whenever you need them. Others are like ice cream; lovely in small doses but never last too long. They you have the home made meal. If you can’t have it the first time around then you can always freeze it for a while and rehear it when you’re ready. Although there’s only so many times you can reheat it before it does some serious damage.

So those are my life lessons learnt so far. I’ve had quite an education in these two weeks. I’m not sure if everybody would learn that in their whole life. Is that good that they’re blissfully oblivious? Or bad that they’re totally naïve?



Never stop trying to obtain the obtainable.

Girl with a can of beans.

x.